I'm Single...Now What?
Now you’re single and you have so much free time on your hands. So now what’s there to do?
Nothing takes up time like a relationship. You spend all of your time talking to them, making plans,Netflix and chilling. You’ve somewhat neglected your family and friends in your relationship (it is okay, they understand). But now you’re single and you have so much free time on your hands. So now what’s there to do?
We grew up on Disney movies, when the going got tough, they had a good 30 second cry session. So indulge yourself. Get a pillow, tissue and pout it out.
Here’s a list that’ll actually help you keep it moving: 1. Cry If and only if you need to. Some of us need to release our frustrations and hurts with a goodcry. After all, we grew up on Disney movies, when the going got tough, they had a good 30second cry session. So indulge yourself. Get a pillow, tissue and pout it out. HOWEVER, do not spend too much time crying. People who cry for too long over an ended relationship are usually still caught up in the past. It’s time to move on friend. Be in the now. Live in the moment. And while you’re on your second week of sobbing, I’m sure their sipping Henny and smiling.
2. Purge Get rid of it. You do not need those pictures. In case we get back together? Please, trashit. Clean it all up. The Instagram photos of yall, the teddy bears, the shirt that reminds you ofthem and the scrapbook. Toss it. It is a form of torture to keep all of this around. Therelationship is over and so are those photos. HOWEVER, do not throw away the good gifts. The rings, televisions and the puppy stays!
3. Go to the Gym Exercising is a good way to relieve some relationship induced stressed, well anystress for that matter. Sweat the small stuff. Run so hard, your eyelids bead with sweat. Plus, it’s also a good idea to hit the gym to knock of some of that relationship weight. You eat well when you’re boo’d up. If none of these reasons motivate you to go the gym, go for the eye candy! There are lots of delicious looking people in there.
4. Write In a journal. Not on social media for the love of God. Get a journal and write out all ofthose emotions you’re sorting through. Twitter does not need to know it. Facebook doesn’tcare. You should be looking for some answers within, not from some seemingly deep stranger on social media. Plus, you don’t want anyone to prey on you in your moments of vulnerability. Don’t supply people with the ammunition to shoot you in the foot.
5. Hang Out Get back to those family game nights. Go on a road trip with some friends. Meet upwith a friend and have a drink at the bar. Make dinner. Pick out a movie and invite people over. Catch up on some of the things you’ve missed in the past couple of months and vice versa.HOWEVER, do not spend all of your time talking about your last relationship. It’s not all about you love.
6. Transform Say it with me, “change is good.” You’re at turning point in your life. Redecorateyour home. Change your hair. Wear something you wouldn’t normally wear. Try a new lipstick.Change your wardrobe. You’re a new person, give yourself a new look to match.
7. Don’t Go Looking for LoveBeing single does not necessarily give you a green light to just dateagain. Take some time and recoup (like America should do after 45). Do not, I repeat, DO NOT start dating someone new, immediately. You’ll meet new people in new places. You’ll find them attractive. Your mind will wonder. You will exchange numbers and hang out. Do it platonically. Just because you randomly met this person, does not mean it is fate. Chill out.
8. Enjoy ItBeing single is not a punishment, so don’t treat it as such. Use this time to have someme time. Pamper yourself. Take yourself to dinner and a movie. Take a dance class. Netflix and chill all on your own. This is the best time to get to know yourself more because your identity isn’t tied to someone else. Because when you love yourself so fiercely, others will know how it’s done.
What do you enjoy about being single? Comment below!